How a surrogate helped a breast cancer survivor

Surrogates help others have a family to call their own.

October marked Breast Cancer Awareness Month. While many remember those who have been touched by this disease, it’s also a time to raise awareness, empower, and de-stigmatize breast cancer through education.  

While events have taken shape all over the country, media outlets have also released stories to help in these efforts. Recently, an article in the “Herald & Review” covered a touching story about how a surrogate helped a breast cancer survivor.

Reporter, Paul Swiech, interviewed Allie Ruff, 29, who became a mother to a baby girl via surrogacy in late August. Ruff was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma after discovering a lump. She and her husband, Dave, were married only a year at the time.

Faced with immediate healthcare decisions to make, Ruff realized that her treatments, which would include chemotherapy, could trigger infertility. The couple opted to undergo “fertility rescue” and Ruff underwent treatment so her eggs could be harvested. Sweich reported the couple decided to have their embryos frozen.

Following Ruff’s surgeries, treatments and current medication protocol, the couple decided that surrogacy was the best option. What they hadn’t anticipated were the high costs.  

At work one day, Ruff’s co-worker, Josie Wiles, learned of her dilemma. Already a mother of three, Wiles offered to be her altruistic surrogate. 

Medical appointments, counseling and then legal contracts ensued.

Wiles told “Herald & Review,” “For me, pregnancy isn’t hard.”

When Wiles decided to help, her husband and family also supported her decision. After Wiles gave birth to her intended parents’ baby, Ava Jo, she said something that all surrogates agree is the most memorable part of the surrogacy journey.   

“Seeing Allie’s and Dave’s faces the first time they saw her (Ava Jo), that was priceless,” Wiles said. “To see that look on someone’s face when they meet their baby for the first time, that was awesome for me.”

Surrogates have the power to help individuals or couples experience the love of a child. Infertility can affect someone for a variety of reasons. In this heartfelt story, it was breast cancer that affected this cancer survivor’s fertility.

By healing the emotional wounds of infertility, surrogates can afford so many individuals and couples with a sense of renewed hope and brighter outlook for happier days in having a family to call their own.