Recently, there was an in-depth article about surrogacy which was first published on SheKnows, of She Knows Media, and then picked up by Yahoo Parenting. The writer of this piece, Bethany Ramos, did an excellent job providing readers with an array of information.
Not only was this article great in terms of learning more about how to become a surrogate, but it offered a lot of layers in other areas for those considering surrogacy to build their family. Likewise, it was incredibly informative for people to learn more about the journey.
Surrogacy is growing in demand so having educational articles touching upon different aspects is incredibly important. People are beginning to wrap their minds and hearts around the concept that surrogates are affording individuals and couples with parenthood dreams they would not have had otherwise.
While surrogacy is an amazing journey people embark on, there are so many avenues people may not have considered. So articles about this topic can be very enlightening.
In her article, Ramos touched upon the following headers such as:
- The different types of surrogacy which include gestational and traditional
- The rigorous screening process at agencies in choosing surrogates
- Types of agency requirements for surrogates
- The need for an attorney specializing in third-party reproduction
And much more….
One misconception that Ramos demystified was the idea that surrogates are attached to their surro-babies. When surrogates are screened at highly respected California surrogacy agencies among others across the nation where surrogacy is legal, candidates must already be mothers. Once a match with intended parents is made and the surro-baby is born, surrogates return home to their own family.
Surrogates are carrying a baby for intended parents. There is no motherly connection.
“I felt for the baby the same way I would feel about a family or friend’s baby. I was happy for the parents,” said Lisa, a former two-time surrogate for Extraordinary Conceptions. “I was overwhelmed with joy and felt so much appreciation from my intended parents. And seeing my intended mothers with their babies for the first time was the most overwhelming and rewarding experience I have ever had.”
Lisa often tells people that there was no sense of loss after delivering her surro-baby because the newborn was never hers to begin with… it belonged to someone else who had longed to experience the love of a child.
Another topic Ramos pointed out was how surrogates have the option to keep in touch with their intended parents. For Lisa, both she and her intended parents do reconnect.
“We are in touch by e-mail about once a year. I send them pictures of my family, and they send pictures of their babies,” she said. “And my intended mother in Spain would love for my family to come and visit someday.”
Each surrogacy journey is unique as is the relationship between surrogates and the intended parents.
While surrogates receive personal joy and financial rewards, the majority agree it is indeed the joy that leaves an indelible imprint which lasts a lifetime.