Military wives giving back through surrogacy
Military wives are heroes. They have an unwavering commitment to their family and nation.
At Extraordinary Conceptions, we met one of these special heroes, who in turn, became an international surrogate for us. Not just once, but twice.
Ann is a mother of 2 and her husband served 14 years in the navy.
The idea of becoming a surrogate happened by chance, a simple conversation, if you will.
“I met another mom at my daughter’s karate class. She was a social worker who screened and interviewed surrogates and intended parents,” she said, adding how she became intrigued with their talk. “She gave me the contact information for Extraordinary Conceptions and I began my research.”
And the experience, she said, was life changing.
Ann was a surrogate in 2011, and then again, in 2012.
Both times, Ann shared that surrogacy actually complimented her lifestyle as a military wife.
“It really occupied my time because my husband was always returning or going back out to sea,” she said, adding how her husband could be gone anywhere from two weeks or up to six months.
As Ann was taking care of her own family while her husband was away, she relished the emotion realizing she was giving back to others.
“I felt this huge feeling of accomplishment knowing how I was helping another family,” Ann said.
Likewise, the military was supportive of her being a surrogate, as well.
“My husband was allowed to accompany me to the doctor or hospital even though it wasn’t our child I was carrying,” she said.
Ann pointed out that she had no intention to carry a second time as surrogate. But that all changed right after the first surrogate delivery.
“When I was in the hospital, and I saw the intended parent’s reaction and how overwhelmed and appreciative she was, that was huge for me,” she said. “It was the most rewarding feeling.”
Ann said no one understands that “feeling” unless they have been a surrogate. To watch a parent’s unbridled joy with their new baby is indescribable and hard to put into words.
“So actually at that moment in the hospital I knew I had to do it again – I had to help someone else,” Ann added.
While the personal fulfillment has been immense, the generous compensation Ann received was incredibly helpful for her and her family.
In the military and depending on where one is stationed, Ann shared, finances can be challenging. Ann was a stay-at-home-mom after her children were born and tight budgets were followed.
Being a surrogate allowed Ann to pay off any debt they had accumulated over the years, as well as putting money away for their children’s college fund.
“It was a huge help bringing in another income,” she said.
Aside from the financial benefits, the personal rewards in so many ways outweighed them.
“There’s no other higher gift you could give someone than the life of a new baby,” she said. Ann went on to say, “Being able to walk this surrogacy journey with a single woman, single man or a couple is just wonderful.”
For those wanting to learn more about surrogacy or repeat surrogacy and its top-tier compensation, please visit our contact page or call 760-438-2265 to speak with one of our caring specialists at Extraordinary Conceptions.
The information contained on this website should not be relied upon for decision making. The laws related to surrogacy are constantly evolving and Extraordinary Conceptions makes no representation that any information contained herein is consistent with current law. This information is provided solely as a starting point. Please consult with a reproductive attorney for the most current information applicable to your circumstance.