In the blink of an eye, life can change. One minute things are running smoothly, and the next, a doctor could be sitting across from you reading a biopsy report that you have breast cancer. Suddenly thoughts become gelatinous, and rather than hearing words, it’s more like echoes. A dark cloud of fear and uncertainty loom, yet through the haze and tears, family and friends carry you to that finish line called hope.
Allison Ardolino Dinkelacker heard her doctor’s shattering words when she was 30 weeks pregnant. It was her first pregnancy. A diagnosis of stage-3 breast cancer is considered “advanced” with the probability that it has invaded and traveled to other tissues near the diseased breast.
At 31 weeks, Dinkelacker underwent a C-section and her baby boy was delivered.
For many patients at this stage, cancer surgery and treatments need to begin as soon as possible. This was the reason for an emergency C-section. And the likelihood of becoming infertile following aggressive medical protocol such as chemotherapy is generally expected to occur.
A story in BabyCenter.com, written by Carolyn Robertson, frames Dinkelacker’s story with photos of her and her pregnant twin sister. Why? The amazing reason is that Dinkelacker’s sister eventually became her surrogate mother years after her initial breast cancer diagnosis.
Six years cancer free and her boy in elementary school, Dinkelacker’s faced the troubling truth that she would not be able to carry another baby again. But her dreams of motherhood didn’t fade. By her side, her twin sister Dawn Ardolino Policastro wanted to be her surrogate.
In fact, her sister knew early on.
Dinkelacker posted her surrogacy journey on Facebook and recalled when the idea first emerged.
“Dawn accompanied me to one of my doctor’s appointments and as we sat in my oncologist’s office and he said to me if you survive this, you will never be able to carry another child. Well before he even finished his sentence Dawn jumped in and said it doesn’t matter because I am going to carry their child,” she wrote.
Dinkelacker’s sister already had her own children.
This summer, Policastro became her sister’s surrogate and gave birth to a healthy 8-pound baby boy.
During the surrogacy journey, Dinkelacker wrote about her sister on Facebook, “You kept that promise through all the devastating highs and lows, but throughout it all, you have been constant in your optimism, support and loving care for us.” She continued, “When most people would have given up during the struggles we endured, you just pushed through it all….How can we begin to thank you for the tremendous generosity and sacrifice you have so willingly bestowed these last few months? You have given us not just the fulfillment of a wish we’ve had for the last six years, but a whole new life….”
And this is what surrogacy is all about. It’s the ability for women to step forward and make dreams come true for others who have had past medical issues or are infertile and cannot have a family without the compassionate help of a surrogate.
Surrogacy is what memories and hopes are made of.
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