Surrogacy: Common Questions Asked
Undoubtedly, surrogates put the spark back into humanity. By their selfless giving to help those who are unable to have a traditional family on their own, surrogates help make parenthood dreams a reality through the miracle of birth.
When someone meets a surrogate, they may have questions about the process. Some common questions may be intertwined with myths. The core reason for this is being uninformed. But knowledge is power, and surrogacy empowers women to help others in need.
A wonderful article in the New York Times depicted a surrogacy journey a handful of years ago. “Her Body, My Baby,” garnered significant attention and offered a great perspective from an intended mother. Emotionally, it’s a timeless piece.
Coupled with this is learning the various points of view from a surrogate.
For example, the most common question a surrogate hears is how she can give birth to a baby and then give it to someone else. The answer is simple. A surrogate, who already has her own children, is carrying a “surro-baby” for someone who cannot be a parent on their own. From the very beginning of her journey a surrogate thoroughly understands that her “surro-baby” will be going to their own loving family, and her body is the vessel which is making that dream come to fruition.
Lisa Ritter, a surrogate at Extraordinary Conceptions, was asked this very question during her journey.
“For me, carrying as a gestational surrogate was easy. I was able to separate my emotions due to the fact that they were not my babies and not genetically mine,” she said. “I view it as watching over them as they grow in me and I was very excited for the day that they would meet their parents.”
And for many repeat surrogates, when they see their intended parents hold their baby for the very first time, it pulls on their heartstrings so dramatically that they instinctively know they will become a surrogate once again. It’s that powerful of an experience.
Another misconception about surrogacy is that only “celebrities” are afforded the opportunity. And this couldn’t be further from the truth. People from various socioeconomic backgrounds all over the globe battle infertility. Reasons for why someone cannot carry a baby can stem from a past medical problem such as cancer treatments which has left a woman infertile, a low ovarian reserve, or women who have been born without a uterus.
In the LGBT community, single and married male couples require the help of an egg donor and surrogate to become fathers.
The demand for a traditional family in these types of scenarios and ones like them are incredibly high, and surrogates are stepping forward to help.
While surrogates are generously compensated, and rightly so, these compassionate women do not do it for the money. Being pregnant is a 24-hour job, and obviously, a surrogate cannot take the weekend off from pregnancy.
While surrogates have had easy pregnancies with their own children and love being pregnant, depending on the woman, they may still experience morning sickness, hormonal fluctuations, and more.
So why do they do it?
Because surrogates cannot imagine the thought of an individual or couple not being able to experience the love of a child, that’s why.
To learn more about surrogacy and to begin the application process today, please visit Extraordinary Conceptions at www.extraconceptions.com or call at 760-438-2265.
The information contained on this website should not be relied upon for decision making. The laws related to surrogacy are constantly evolving and Extraordinary Conceptions makes no representation that any information contained herein is consistent with current law. This information is provided solely as a starting point. Please consult with a reproductive attorney for the most current information applicable to your circumstance.