The beauty of assisted reproductive technologies is that there are many ways to build a family, including surrogacy. When you are single, there are a few extra things to consider when starting your family through surrogacy. Read on for more information about surrogacy for single intended parents.
Deciding on Single Parenting Through Surrogacy
Thanks to a greater appreciation for many different types of families, more and more single people are looking to start their own families – without a partner. Surrogacy is one of several options for single people to have children.
The good thing is that in most cases, single people have the same ability to access surrogacy as a path to parenthood as couples. However, surrogacy laws do vary from state to state, so it is vital to double check the laws in your state before getting started.
Advantages of Surrogacy for Single Intended Parents
The primary advantage of surrogacy is that you’ll have a child who is biologically related to you if you are using your own eggs or sperm. In addition, you’ll be there throughout the entire pregnancy, from before conception through delivery.
You’ll also have the opportunity to form a wonderful relationship with your surrogate and her family if that’s what you would like. Some intended parents (and their surrogate) wish to remain in contact after delivery, while others prefer not to.
Disadvantages of Surrogacy for Single Intended Parents
There are some disadvantages to consider as well. Cost is one of them. Surrogacy is very expensive, and you must be able to afford all the associated costs on only your income. It’s important to recognize that the surrogacy cycle isn’t the end either; don’t neglect the cost of single parenting.
In addition, surrogacy for single intended parents can be a very challenging process. You’ll need to find a strong support system to help you through it. The surrogacy cycle is only the beginning, and you must be prepared for all that single parenting has to offer – the good and the bad.
The Surrogacy Process
Single men will need to work with both a surrogate and an egg donor. In some cases, they may also need to use a sperm donor. This is usually because the man does not produce any or enough sperm, or because he carries the gene for an inherited disorder that he does want to pass on to the child. There are many different sperm banks that a man can use to find a sperm donor if necessary, or he can use the sperm of a family member or close friend.
Single women will need to use a surrogate and a sperm donor. She’ll have the option of using an anonymous donor or someone she knows, as long as that man isn’t a blood relative (if she is using her own eggs). Single women using surrogacy to conceive may or may not need to use an egg donor as well. This typically depends on their medical history and personal preferences. For example, a woman who had her uterus removed due to cancer may still be able to use her own eggs for the initial in vitro fertilization (IVF) and then have the embryo implanted into the uterus of her surrogate.
However, there are many different options that are possible when choosing an egg or sperm donor, and surrogate:
- A family member or friend as their surrogate and an anonymous sperm or egg donor
- An agency surrogate and a non-blood related friend as their donor
- Both donor and surrogate from an agency
- Friends or family members both as their donor and surrogate
There are many different ways to make surrogacy work, and they all give a single person the chance to have a baby that is biologically related to them. Whether choosing to work with an agency or someone they know, it is always advised that a proper reproductive attorney is used as all parties need to be protected legally.
Though there are some unique challenges that come up for single parenting through surrogacy, the good news is that it is very do-able! Working with a reputable and experienced surrogacy and egg donor agency can help provide the resources and support you’ll need along your journey to parenthood.
Give us a call today and speak to one of our amazing surrogacy case managers who can answer all of your questions and help you get started. We look forward to working with you!